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Thinking about being a dad in pregnancy

‘What does being a dad mean to me?’ ‘How can I be a good dad?’ Thinking about these questions during pregnancy can help set you up for a rewarding experience as a father.

Being a dad

Becoming a father can give you a huge sense of meaning and purpose. As a dad, you’re going to have a huge impact on your child’s life – right from birth.

You can get more out of being a new father in the first few months by preparing for becoming a dad during pregnancy. And if you’re positively involved as a father from early on, it’s more likely that your marriage or relationship will be happier and last longer.

I don’t think I was ready for anything in my life more than being a dad. I probably haven’t excelled at anything in my life to the level that I have in being a dad. It’s probably a real want to be a dad and realising how special it is to be a dad.
– Raj, father of one

The juggle of fatherhood

Most fathers are doing a lot more with their children than in previous generations, and they’re also juggling work and other interests. But you don’t have to be superman.

You might need to spend some time thinking about how to manage the work-life balance. And your strategies for managing it will probably need to keep changing, as your children grow and other things in your life change.

But it’s worth the time and effort you put into it. The bonds you make with your children in the early days can last a lifetime.

Video

Dads’ changing roles

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This short video is about the changing role of fathers in raising children. Dads talk about being stay-at-home dads and getting more involved in caring for their children. They also share their experiences of being more involved in parenting than their own fathers were.

Looking forward to being a dad

As you settle into the pregnancy and it becomes more real, you might find yourself thinking about the things you’re looking forward to as a dad.

For example, you might be looking forward to taking your child to the football, or teaching your child about gardening, music or whatever it is that you love. You could be excited about playing games, helping with homework, cooking together, solving a problem or just ‘being there’. It could be as simple as tucking your child into bed.

If you’re looking for ideas, check out our article on how to make special ‘dad time’ happen.

Something will just trigger a thought like, ‘We can go to the footy together!’ You’ve already been to the football before but with a baby, they’ll learn from you. Everything that they experience will be new and you’re the one that will get to guide them. It’s a privilege to be partly in charge of that teaching and learning process, helping to shape and mould somebody who hopefully can be a reasonably well-rounded person.
– Roger, expectant father (30 weeks)

Preparing to be a dad: lifestyle changes

Some men also find that learning they’re going to become a dad is a wake-up call to change their lifestyle.

For example, if you have a demanding job, you might think about what changes you’d like to make to be able to spend time with your kids.

Or you might decide to take steps to become better at managing money or to quit smoking or drinking alcohol.

Things you can do

  • Watch our video on becoming a parent. It might get you thinking about what’s most important to you about being a dad. How do you want to be remembered as a dad?
  • Can you turn these thoughts into something more specific, like something you want to do for your family? It could be as simple as saying you’ll spend time reading or playing games with your child every day, or something that could take more groundwork, like discussing flexible work hours with your employer.
  • Give your lifestyle some thought. Are there some things you want to change before your baby arrives? Perhaps you want to get in better physical shape, or quit smoking or drinking alcohol?
  • Look into your parental leave options, including paid leave from your employer and Dad and Partner Pay.

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Last updated or reviewed
09-08-2016

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