In your baby’s early months, she is working out what the world is like. If your newborn cries and someone comes, and if she is cuddled, kissed and played with, she is going to think the world is a pretty OK place.
On the other hand, if your baby cries and nobody comes, or if nobody ever smiles or cuddles him, he is going to think the world is a pretty hard place.
Research shows that when a parent responds quickly to comfort a crying infant, the baby cries less often overall. It is absolutely fine to pick your baby up when she cries. It tells her that she is safe because you are a caring, responsive parent who loves her.
Most parents and professionals believe that babies are born with very different behavioural styles, or temperaments. Some are relaxed and easy going, others appear more intense and dramatic. Some seem to move constantly, others are more docile. Some are cheerful most of the time, others are more serious.
You don't need to worry about spoiling
your baby in the first month, or even the first six months.
Why babies cry
Crying is a newborn’s way of communicating, of telling you what he needs. It’s a sound that can spur you into action (even when you are fast asleep). It can turn on a mother’s milk like some kind of magic remote control.
Crying peaks at six weeks old. This kind of crying will pass. The crying baby flowchart (PDF doc: 212kb) can help you eliminate possible causes of crying, but you might not be able to stop the crying every time. This can be hard for you.
Normal babies cry and fuss on average for almost three hours a day (and some for a good deal longer than this), studies show. Most of this crying and fussing seems to take place in the late afternoon and evening, although there is considerable variation from day to day.
Babies’ crying becomes more communicative as they get older and it is more likely to be spread throughout the day.