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Managing ADHD in children 12-15 years

12-15 years

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) in the teenage years is a condition you and your child can manage. A health professional can advise you on how best to use behaviour strategies, medication or a combination of the two.

Worried your child has ADHD: first steps

If you’re worried that your child has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), it’s a good idea to seek professional advice.

For example, you might have noticed that your child seems to have difficulty completing tasks at school. Or perhaps your child seems to have trouble paying attention. 

The first step is to visit your child’s GP or paediatrician. If your child isn’t already seeing a paediatrician, her GP might refer her to one or to a child psychologist or psychiatrist for further assessment and diagnosis. 

If your child is diagnosed with ADHD, you, your child and your health professional can work together to develop an individualised management plan.

Sometimes children aren’t diagnosed with ADHD until they’re teenagers. This is because their symptoms might not cause problems until later childhood or the teenage years, when schoolwork and other life demands – for example, starting secondary school – become more challenging.

Managing ADHD

Managing ADHD in teenagers is first about accepting that your child will behave in challenging ways at times and might have difficulties at school. Teenagers are going through lots of social, emotional and physical changes, which can make things even more complicated. Also, some teenagers might be at risk of developing mental health difficulties, including anxiety and/or depression.

Gathering information is key to understanding your child’s condition and how to manage it. And it’s part of working with health professionals to develop a management plan, which can help with your child’s social and educational development.

Developing a management plan for your child involves getting a balance between what you and his teachers expect your child to do and what your child actually can do. It might include setting up a daily routine, clear rules and consequences for your child’s behaviour.

To get the balance right, a management plan might include:

  • behaviour strategies, including strategies for the classroom and home
  • support for any other learning, language, movement and emotional problems your child might have
  • medication.

The best plans are usually based on sound professional advice that takes into account what suits your child and family. Plans should also consider all aspects of your child’s life, including your child’s needs and responsibilities at home, at school and in other social settings.

Discussing your plan with family, therapists and teachers will help everybody have realistic expectations of your child’s behaviour. You can also let people know about useful ways to handle your child’s behaviour, as well as the things your child finds difficult. And if other people need to supervise your child and her medication, they’ll need to know how much she takes and when.

Behaviour strategies for ADHD in teenagers

As your child becomes a teenager, you and he might face different challenges in managing his behaviour.

Your child will want and need more independence as she gets older, and she’s likely to be pushing the boundaries you set. This is all normal. But your child’s ADHD symptoms – and any social and academic difficulties she has – might make the journey to independence a bit harder.

Behaviour strategies focus on teaching your child the skills he needs to increase his cooperative behaviour and reduce his challenging behaviour. The ideas we suggest below might also be useful for encouraging your child to take responsibility for managing his own behaviour.

You can start learning about and using these strategies even if you’re still waiting for an official diagnosis for your child. 

Clear verbal instructions
Your child will find it easier to behave well if she has a good understanding of what you want her to do. Clear, easy-to-follow verbal instructions linked to consequences will help. You can help your child to follow verbal instructions by:

  • making sure you have your child’s attention and keeping eye contact 
  • keeping instructions clear and brief, with the shortest number of steps
  • showing your child what to do – for example, ‘Please pick up the clothes from the floor and hang them up in the cupboard’.

Your child might find it hard to cooperate and might even argue with you. If your child is behaving angrily or defiantly, you could try:

  • keeping your voice and face calm
  • walking away for a little while and then coming back – for example, ‘I’m going to get a glass of water. I’ll be back in one minute and you can tell me what’s on your mind then’ 
  • encouraging your child to make a choice about his behaviour and its consequences – for example, ‘You could choose to keep arguing and miss your screen time. Or you could take a break and we’ll talk in five minutes. You let me know what you decide’.

Tiredness and energy levels
Tiredness and lack of sleep can make your child’s behaviour, emotions, attention, social relationships and school performance worse. You can help your child get enough rest and keep up her energy by:

  • providing healthy food options to help with energy and alertness
  • building rest breaks into activities
  • encouraging her to break up her learning tasks, such as reading or homework, with brief stretches of physical activity
  • encouraging your child to get at least 9-10 hours of sleep each night, and to go to sleep and get up at much the same time each day
  • keeping screen time to a minimum during the day and making sure all electronic devices are switched off at least an hour before bed.

Regular, predictable routines
Keep changes in routine to a minimum. You can help your child manage his symptoms by:

  • letting him know in advance about changes – for example, you can say, ‘In five minutes, you’ll need to shut down the computer and turn your phone off’
  • talking to your child about his daily schedule. You can also work with his teachers to check that he’s keeping up with his workload
  • helping your child with scheduling and organisation by setting up a reminder system at home – for example, a daily timetable with tasks that your child ticks when he’s done them.

Social skills
You can help your child develop her social skills by:

  • teaching her what to do if somebody teases or bullies her – for example, walking away
  • reminding her about the consequences of specific actions – for example, less time on the phone or computer if she doesn’t ring home to say she’s going to be late
  • role-modelling fair and consistent behaviour towards your child and others.

Praise for positive behaviour
Praise and encouragement
 are powerful motivators. Teenagers might seem self-sufficient, but your child still wants and needs approval. When you notice and comment on your child’s positive behaviour, you encourage him to keep behaving in that way.

You could try:

  • encouraging your child to do activities where she’s got a good chance of going well – for example, sports, music lessons, drama classes and so on
  • going over highlights with your child at the end of each day. You can also talk through things she might have had trouble with.

In the classroom
You can talk with your child’s teacher about:

  • dividing tasks into smaller chunks
  • offering one-on-one help whenever possible
  • planning the classroom so that children with special needs are seated near the front of the room and away from distractions
  • making a visual checklist of tasks that need to be completed
  • allowing some extra time to finish tasks.

To get the support your child needs for any learning, language and motor problems at school, you might need to ‘speak up’ for your child. This could involve talking to your child’s classroom teacher, the principal, the special needs support officer or teacher and others about special programs, funding and other help for your child.

Schools can help by setting out these support plans in your child’s individual learning plan. The school should also work with you to set and review your child’s goals in regular support group meetings. 

For more information about teenage behaviour strategies, you can check out our articles on encouraging good behaviour in teenagers, dealing with disrespectful behaviour in teenagers, discipline strategies for teenagers and active listening.

ADHD medications

Stimulant medications
Doctors will sometimes prescribe stimulant medications for children and teenagers diagnosed with ADHD if children’s symptoms are causing significant problems. These medications improve the way the parts of the brain ‘talk’ to each other. This can help children and teenagers with attention and self-control.

Methylphenidate is the most commonly used medication of this type. It’s marketed under the brand names Ritalin®, Attenta and Concerta®.

These different medications release the methylphenidate at different rates and different times of the day. Your child’s paediatrician or psychiatrist will be able to work out with you which drug and dose will be right for your child.

Here are a few questions you might want to ask your doctor:

  • What are the side effects of the medication?
  • How long do side effects last?
  • How should these be monitored?
  • Does my child need to take the medication every day, including weekends and holidays?

Stimulant medications can cause some side effects – for example, loss of appetite. This can affect your child’s weight gain. There might also be some minor effects on your child’s height growth.

So if your child has been prescribed stimulant medication, your health professional should be monitoring him closely. Most side effects are mild and don’t last long. If there are side effects that don’t go away, your health professional might change the dose or timing of medication to help with this. 

Non-stimulant medication
There’s also a non-stimulant medication available for treating ADHD, called Strattera® (atomoxetine). This medication might reduce anxiety too.

Managing medication in older children and teenagers
As children get older, they often want to take more responsibility for their medication, which is a good thing. Some children also go through a period where they don’t like the idea of taking medications.

Either way, if your child is able to share her feelings about taking medication, you’ll be better able to understand where she’s coming from. Listening to your child will also help you understand how the medication affects her daily activities.

It’s also good to encourage your child to discuss things with his GP or paediatrician. You might suggest he has part of his appointments alone with the doctor. 

Support for yourself

Looking after yourself by asking for help and support is a big part of managing your child’s ADHD. Here are some options for you to think about:

  • Ask for help from family members and friends. If your child relates well to a particular family member, such as an aunt or grandparent, that person might be able to spend some time with your child so you can have some time out.
  • Speak to your child’s teacher about classroom behaviour strategies that you can try out at home.
  • Go to a support group for parents of older children and teenagers with ADHD.
  • Talk to your child’s health professional about any difficulties you’re having.
  • Learn about stress and how you can handle it.
Sharing support, advice and experiences with other parents can be a big help. You could try starting a conversation in our online forum for parents of pre-teens or our online forum for parents of teens.

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